4 posts tagged “love”

So I was browsing around the internet last night, and I came across a personals website for Fort Campbell singles. Apparently, it's for the whole area..... Fort Campbell, KY, Hopkinsville, KY, and Clarksville, TN.

It's new, and it's a good idea. Sure, a lot of people go to the bars in Clarksville attempting to meet someone. But there are some of us that don't want to go to the bars to do that. So now there is a singles site. It's called Fort Campbell Personals and the website is http://www.ftcampbellpersonals.com/

Other than the bars, there really aren't a whole lot of ways for singles to connect around here. In Hopkinsville especially. Clarksville and Fort Campbell are so busy. It seems like there are a million people running in opposite directions. How can anyone make contact and take the time to get to know someone.

The website is free to register, place an ad, and browse other members. They've got blogs, audio, and video settings to upload things too.

So over the weekend, I placed a personal on nocheatersdate.com ....... 

I have actually seen it advertised several times on the show "Cheaters". But, I had completely forgotten about it. So last week my friend tells me if she were single, she'd place an ad on the no cheaters personals. So I went and checked it out. It seems good, but for my city there is not a lot of people. Probably because not everyone watches Cheaters. I only watch it every now and then.

What she says makes a lot of sense though. Even though it's not a guarantee that you are going to get a faithful person, at least you can try.

Traits that I find truly attractive in a man There are qualities that I look for in a guy that are truly important for me. It's the same for everyone. And life has taught me that you have to have common ground with a boyfriend in order for it to ever be long term material.

1. Honesty......  Honesty isn't just telling the truth when you want to. It's telling the truth all the time. If you are doing something that you wouldn't admit to, then you shouldn't be doing it.

2. Attention..... This is another really important one. Two people in a relationship should have a true desire to show each other attention. If you find the tv more important then your significant other, then your partner deserves A LOT better than you.

3. Sex drive... I really hate to mention this one, but I think guys have the lower sex drive. I'm not just talking about how many times a day, but how good it is. A man can take sex from mediocre to great just by his attitude. I want a guy that's not just doing it, but someone that is really into it as well.

4. Kindness.......  If you have the desire to be mean to someone you are dating, why are you with them?

5. Respect .......  It's important to have admiration for someone you are with. If in your eyes they aren't a great person, you're either missing something or it's time to end the relationship.

6. Thoughtfullness........ This is something that I look for immediately. I want someone that is as thoughtful as I am. Someone that cares enough to think about something I like or someone that calls me just to call me.

I've nowhere near covered everything that's important to me, but I have covered the basics. By nature, I am a deep and reflective person. But I like excitement as well. I like exciting things. I'm passionate about many things. So I would never be happy with someone that is so self absorbed that they just don't notice these things. Or do them. I would be happiest with someone like myself.

A lot of marriages fail because of this. Two people fall in lust or love and they don't take the time to look beneath the surface. Half of them don't simply because they don't care and they want to live in the moment. Then a few months or few years later they hate the other person because they are getting a divorce after months of arguing and fighting.

This is not the kind of guy I want or the kind of relationship I want. I want someone that takes the time to look into my soul and truly sees everything I am. And then falls in love with me. Not someone that meets me, likes me, and just wants a relationship. In my eyes, that's not a true commitment. And it wouldn't last.

As a woman, I have to dodge the guys that are just looking to be involved. Because these guys don't think to the future. They think to the moment. They are lonely and want to be involved. But then a month later, a year later, reality sets in. And then it's a disaster. Guys like this look to blame everyone and everything else. They aren't facing up to the truth that they made the mistake. And sometimes hurt others in the process.

Christine Feehan is one of my favorite paranormal romance authors.  I started out reading the dark series. I really love it, and I am trying to keep up with all of her books. Then at the library, I saw another book and  I decided to try it out. It's the Drake sisters series. And now I am hooked on them as well.

She manages to keep her books so interesting. They are fun and full of intrigue and romance.

I used to be into Native American and Historical romances, but in the last year I've really turned to the paranormal. The dark series is great. Books are best when you really feel a connection to the characters. And with her books I do.

I really look forward to reading more. I know writing is hard work. I hope she continues to write more!

If you haven't read one of her books before, you should. It's hard to put them down once you've started.